Saturday, July 08, 2006

Babies have THEIR own agenda

I have been told constantly over and over that "he's a baby, that's what babies do." When I feel frustrated at something.
I have learned that that little sentence is more true then I would have ever thought.
Cooper is a really good baby and I am so grateful for that. I thank God all the time. I don't mean to complain but I find myself doing so. I justify it to myself by saying that I am just frustrated and I need to vent. But those I vent to are probably sick of me.... :(
Anyway....I would like to tell you about yesterday.
Cooper tends to fight naps every so often. Yesterday was a scream fest for an hour. Every five minutes I would go in there and calm him down. Then walk away. I reassured him that I was still here and it was just a nap and that he is ok. That may sound mean to some of you out there and make me sound like a bad, mean mom. I hope not but if so, then you are entitled to your opinion. I just hope it doesn't make me out to be a bad guy. What I am about to say really worked for us. He slept for 2.5 hours that nap.
At night time Cooper was really good. He would always just go down with no problems. Bath, book, feed and then bed. He knew the drill. He still does and I think he fights it cause he doesn't want to go to bed.
The last three nights he has been crying when we put him down. Last night we tried the letting him Cry It Out. (CIO) Not for long mind you. He would cry, never to the point where he was beside himself, and then we would go in. This way it would help him to learn to soothe himself. I will tell you it was SO hard to do.
So it started. He cried for 5 minutes. Then Phil went in there for 5 minutes to just calm him down and reassure him. It wasn't a super hard cry just a normal I am complaining cry. Phil patted and rubbed his back for five minutes. Didn't say anything to him, didn't pick him up. Just reassured him by letting him know we were there. Feeling his presence. Then after 5 minutes of doing that he walked out.
Cooper started again. Ok...5 minutes... then it was my turn. I took my five minutes rubbing his back, patting his back and rubbing his hair. (he loves that) and then walked out. I didn't talk or pick him up. When I went in there at first he looked up and smiled. Like he just needed to know I was still there and I was and he was happy with that. I walked out. He started to fuss then all of a sudden all was quiet. It was 1/4 to 9. 9:30 I fell asleep.
Then this morning I woke up looked at the clock and it was 5:10am!! No peep out of Cooper. I peeked into his room and he was still asleep, still breathing. So I went to the washroom. Went back to bed and that was when he woke up realizing that he was HUNGRY!
So I fed him and he was back in bed by 1/4 to 6. It is now 1/4 to 8 and he is still sleeping. He went through the night! I feel rested. I feel good. I know that today and tonight may not go as smoothly but I can still hope...
He has always done really good at night and I know that I am VERY fortunate. Thank you God for the sleep. I even thanked Cooper when I got him up to feed this morning. Not bragging or anything cause we do have bad days. And I give so much credit to those mom's out there that have to deal with a colicky baby on a regular basis. I don't know how you do it!


Sue said...

You are such a great mom Misty. I know you have your moments where you wonder what the heck you're doing, but you figure it out, and you have a content baby to show for it. God has blessed Cooper with a good home.

Radlife said...

I love parenthood. Even through the trials.
God Bless